I was studying my Bible this morning when an interesting word jumped into my mind. It wasn’t a word that was written in the passage I was reading. Rather, it was a word that rang in my head so loudly that I firmly believe God was using that very moment to teach me something. Always willing to learn, I grabbed my journal and started writing down some thoughts. What I discovered is something that I think any parent may want to learn… Mary had confidence, and so should we.
I was reading from the book of John.
On the third day a wedding took place at Cana in Galilee. Jesus’ mother was there, and Jesus and his disciples had also been invited to the wedding. When the wine was gone, Jesus’ mother said to him, “They have no more wine.”
“Woman, why do you involve me?” Jesus replied. “My hour has not yet come.”
His mother said to the servants, “Do whatever he tells you.”
I literally got to Mary saying that they have no more wine when the word confidence began blaring in my brain.
Mary had confidence in Jesus.
So many times as a parent, I’ve found myself stepping in for my kids or just not allowing them to proceed with whatever they’ve found interest in. So many times, I’ve said to myself that they just aren’t ready or they just don’t have certain skills.
I think that when your kids have special needs it can become easy to do that… life is a little more difficult for special needs kids and parents really just want to make things easier or make things run smoother.
But we need to have confidence in our children and their abilities.
Mary had confidence that Jesus could solve the issue at that wedding. She knew he was capable as he was God’s son. She believed in him.
Jesus, being fully God himself, could have ignored her… but that isn’t what happened. And while he did solve the issue of the wine, he first pointed out that his time had not yet come.
Confidence… how many times have my kids felt they couldn’t do something? Sure, Jesus knew he could, but maybe just maybe there is something in here for parents like me. My kids often think they can’t. They are often unsure of themselves. They often doubt their own timing.
But Mary had confidence and, despite what Jesus said, she told the servants to do what Jesus told them. She did this because she knew he could make the necessary changes.
And she had the confidence in him to speak up.
Nearby stood six stone water jars, the kind used by the Jews for ceremonial washing, each holding from twenty to thirty gallons.
Jesus said to the servants, “Fill the jars with water”; so they filled them to the brim.
Then he told them, “Now draw some out and take it to the master of the banquet.”
They did so, and the master of the banquet tasted the water that had been turned into wine. He did not realize where it had come from, though the servants who had drawn the water knew. Then he called the bridegroom aside and said, “Everyone brings out the choice wine first and then the cheaper wine after the guests have had too much to drink; but you have saved the best till now.”
What Jesus did here in Cana of Galilee was the first of the signs through which he revealed his glory; and his disciples believed in him.
Even when I don’t feel my kids have the abilities to enter a certain situation, I need to fully believe in them. I need to have confidence that they are ready and that they can do whatever it is they set their minds to do. I should model that confidence of Mary in my own parenting!
Jesus went on to change water into wine. It was his first recorded miracle. Because of doing so, John 2:11 tells us that his disciples then believed in him. How awesome is that?!
I know Jesus didn’t need Mary’s confidence to perform that miracle, but the example is so huge.
Perhaps by displaying more confidence in my children, I can help them to believe in themselves.
Perhaps my confidence will help others to see their great value.
Special needs and difficulties are just like those jars of water that Jesus turned to wine… they start off one way, but with the confidence in abilities and the stepping out of the children, they can be filled with something better. I think that God gave me a lesson today on parenting. I think that I need to stop holding on to the water jars so tightly, and I need to let the changes that need to take place do just that. It sounds weird to call kids wine… but I need to have the confidence to allow my kids to become the best!